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Friday, September 8, 2017

Top ten tips to deal with anxiety


It's Fri-yay bitches!



Hello my dears, gather round and have a seat. I'm not sure if any of you have twigged this about me yet, but I'm a bit of a nervous nelly; yes, surprising as it might be, I suffer with anxiety. Anxiety is more than being worried about something, it's waking up worried, being unabel to focus on making your breakfast because you're so worried. It's calling people when they don't reply, or arrive on time, because you're worried they've had an accident. It's needing exact phrasing on agreements, so it's in black and white, because you're anxious they'll change the terms. 

Anxiety is a beast, a really mean beast. If you're like me, or have any mental health condition, you should research coping mechanisms and find out what works for you. It's a very personal thing. To give you some hints or ideas, I'm going to explain how I muddle through life, 9/10 with these coping mechanisms, I cover my anxiety pretty well. 

1. Ground myself in Logic - Okay, they got out of the hospital visit at 4, that's a busy time on the roads, so chances are they haven't had an accidcent; they're just in a jam. 
Why this helps - This helps me remind myself that the anxiety is an irrational visitor in my house and it is not welcome here. 

2. Distraction - Using distraction techniques work across a wide variety of mental health issues, including anxiety, and borderline personality disorder. There's just so many distractions you can find. 

Examples:  - Talk to a friend
Talk to your pet
listen to music
write some music
read a book 
write a book 
adult colouring
drawing
graphic design 
create a blog
play a facebook game.

3. Get to the root of the problem - If I can work out why I am stressed, generally I can resolve the problems.

4. Write a letter, expressing how frustrated, angry, anxious, upset or whatever you are and then tear it into teeny-tiny peices!

5. Jam out to music, LOUD. I mean, pretty loud. Loud enough to feel a little naughty and very cathartic, maybe the level is custom to each person, I don't know! 

6. Lavender filled microwavable pads - essentially scent beads in a pouch, you pop it in the microwave and the world doens't seem to bad

7. Laying on my heating pad somehow often helps me. I think it's something to do with the heat just being soothing. 

8. A hot lavender scented bath and pampering session can remind you why self care is important, while the lavender acts as a relaxing agent.

9. Take any prescribed medications

10. If I really can't shake the anxious feeling, I will try to go to sleep.

Wednesday, September 6, 2017

Never Refuse Equipment!

Hey all, 
So recently social services finally got their butts in gear and came over for a visit. They assessed me, but said they couldn't offer me a stair lift, instead they could offer a bath lift. I asked if it was one of the ones that lifted you all the way out, and when she replied no, I said I didn't think it would help. 

She urged me to give it a go and reminded me that I could always send it back. So I relented and agreed. 
Two days ago a knock at my door prooved to be the installation man. 

So, now this ugly bath chair is in my bath, taking up valuable space because at 5'9 I don't fit all the way in anyhow! I sort of glared at it and shut the door, I hadn't intended to have a bath anyway. 

But today I had intended, infact I needed to feel the warm water soothe my muscles. So, I transfered onto the bath lift, got semi-comfortable and down we went. I did what I needed to do and came back out. 

The most spectacular thing happened...I wasn't exhausted. Like I didn't want to take a nap for a year, which is the usual state of play after a bath. I was amazed. The bath lift is easy to use, waterproofed all the way throughout the unit and charges really quickly. 
It has lots of very cool features, like you can't get stuck IN the bath, it will only run out of battery in the UP position. 

So, never refuse equipment unless it would endanger you to use it. Give it a fair go, a fair shot. See what happens, if it helps, fabulous! If it doesn't, at least you tried!

 

Sunday, September 3, 2017

A Mis-read Reading List


Guys, I made a boo-boo! I mis-read my reading list. I made a public plea to others enrolled on my degree to see if they had any ideas, as I didn't want to be left behind. A very kind young lady posted her reading list, she grouped it in three pharagraphs, with one book still to be decided and give to us on our orientation.

This was great, and very kind. Except after budgeting, planning, and spending the lesser portion of 200 pounds. I took another glance at the list, to notice two dates, too many authors. There were six books and one to be given to us at orientation, not three.

I should have really known better, my degree is known for being heavy on reading and writing skills. So what do you do now?

First of all, don't panic -

Do some googling and find all your books, Google has this fantastic feature where you can go to the tabs that say ''news, images etc'' there's one that says ''shopping''. Click on this and it'll offer you a varied selection of options for purchase. Then when you've found one you think would be a good price, click ''add to shortlist'' and it'll save it. Do this until you've got all the books you need and DON'T BUY ANY YET.

Put your books in price list order - lowest to highest.
The lower priced books are more likely to be, although still needed, accompanying texts to the larger priced books.

Work out how many weeks left till the semester starts, and work out how much you can afford to live without.
I recieve funds on the 1, and 15th of each month. I have another 2 payments to go before the semester starts, I will be more than fine.

If you are strapped for cash until some time after the semester starts, take a peek at the library and see if you can borrow the texts.

Search for online copies, kindle versions of most books are usually cheaper than their physical alternative.

But really, don't panic. It's fixable, most things in life are!
Hope you're having a great weekend!!

L xox

Thursday, August 31, 2017

School ID photos




Hey all!

Hope you're all doing great this fine, fancy, Friday morning! I'm up bright and early as I often am and I wanted to give you some tips for school ID photos.
If you're like me, I use make up and a smile to distract everyone from the constant pain of dislocations and other symptoms making me feel bleh. I want people to look at me and have no idea I'm sick unless I choose to tell them. This is my reason, plus I enjoy creating looks, but whatever your reason here are my top spoonie approved tips!


If you don't have to leave your bedroom:
- 1- Don't get dressed, in my photos I was wearing my pajamas and I have no shame in admitting the effort my make up took yesterday, meant there was none left for getting dressed too! But If fashion is more amour. Don't put so much effort into hair and make up. Focus on the aspect that matters most ton you!

- 2-if your anxiety causes it all to matter most I suggest getting dressed and ready in pieces and not all at once. Pace yourself! **if you don't know what pacing is, please find Jo Southall and let her legit change your life**

-3- Thicker make up in unnatural light never seems to look as caked on as it does outside, so as long as you don't have to GO outside like this, use a heavier contour hand and bold your eyeliner because it might now show up otherwise.

-4-  Don't stand in front of a plain background, sit in front of it. Remember  chances are it's from your collar bones up that they are going to use!

- 5- Blink before the flash: A photographer friend of mine told me this trick while we were on shoot together. It really cuts down the number of scrapped shots!

-6- I like to pull some silly faces and loosen myself up first before taking the serious shots!


If you have to leave the house for the photo:

-1- Got any cute leggings/tshirts combos? Wear something you're comfortable in, maybe dress is up with a statement necklace!

-2- if you don't want your photo to be in your wheelchair, take it with you to line up, and then get out for the photo. And ignore anyone who is ignorant and annoying!

-3- Or, get there early and explain to the photographer that you don't want your wheelchair in the shot and see what they can do!

-4- if it's a professional set up really really seriously blink before the flash.


So those are my tips, I have more but I'm having trouble finding them and I wanted to get this out to you guys with hopes that some might feel less daunted by it all!

Wednesday, August 30, 2017

Obtaining appropriate University Halls, as a disabled student




Guys my accommodation (living arrangements) have finally come through after a week (and a looonnng bank holiday) I'm going to walk you through, step by step, on how I got this in play. 

First of all, I made it known that despite the fact I was walking around the campus for hours, I was infact a part-time wheelchair user and the giant pup with me (Jaxx) was a specially trained assistance dog, who honestly saves my life daily. Of course everyone loved Jaxx, and blinked up at me as if to say ''sorry, were you talking; there was a dog!'' 

So I realised very quickly, that a verbal statement of needs wouldn't be enough to get the ball rolling and for them to get the picture that accesible accommodation wasn't a choice for me. 

Contact Student Support, Learning center...
Or whatever your specific university calls the area of the campus where students that have additional needs are advised, and supported. 
Talk to them, make yourself known, explain what you need and they'll get back to you with what they need from you, to get you what you need from them. 

For me it was a doctors letter of ''medical necessity'' saying that Jax was an assistance dog who'd adhere to a set level of behavioural standards, other than trying to take his Halti lead off, he does this all very competently. No problem there, I had two letters lined up from different specialists. 

These letters, I think, worked as duplicate, because these letters also outlined my medical conditions, the symptoms I often expeirence and I have a prescribing letter for my Wheelchair! So, if you've self funded your wheelchair, be prepared to advocate for yourself. Whether that's annoying your doctor to explain why it's needed, or having a very compelling argument yourself. 

Introduce yourself to the accommodation allocation team
In advance, and because I wasn't instructed on which way round to go about this, I introduced myself to the accommodation allocation team. These are the gate keepers, or so to speak, to the awesome accessible rooms. Closer to the lift and the kitchen, these rooms aren't an optional extra for students such as myself, they level the playing field in the academic world and the professional world every single day. 
So make sure they know whats up, who you are, always add your student number in every corrospondence. 
I also flag/mark as urgent all emails from University staff,so that I do not miss anything. It's also handy if you need to refer back to what Mrs M said to tell Mr J!

What to do if you run into issues
If like me you somehow got two student folders created for you when you enrolled, and it's now causing you issues. My best suggestion to you is...annoy everyone. I don't mean just call them up and ask how their day is going, but keep a check on what is being done to resolve the current situation. Make sure everyone you have emailed so far is aware of the problem, the Learning support staff member I was in contact with is, I believe, the only reason the issue is being resolved as expediently as it is! So, sometimes, even if you don't think that specific member of staff can help; give them a heads up anyway!

introcude yourself to the head of the department.
I chose to do this because of the file error and I am unable to enrol, or look at my timetable, contact my tutors specifically etc. I just wanted to give the heads up to the department that there would be a wheelchair user with a big dog roaming around their halls. Yes I should be there, yes the dog should be here, and yes everything really does have to be neon pink <3 This also opens up communication pathways and I promise you, promise you, this will make your life so much easier when you inevitably have to choose between missing an appointment or missing a class and catching up. 

As well as this, for me, doing this offered me piece of mind. Turns out that should the worst happen and I do have to miss a class, there will be oppertunities to attend a identical lecutre scheduled at a different time! So, it's always worth speaking to them!

Some final tips before I log off:
- Not all disabled access rooms are created equal, make sure they know what you need. I needed a seat in the shower, and that's what I got. But if I hadn't have made it clear, who knows. Maybe there were other options available!
-Ask what you're going to get before you accept your offer. It's great being told you'll get xyz and being offered abc. This likely is an administration error and not a malicious act. 
- Always act with kindness, these contacts are your allies  while it's sometimes tempting to explode frustration and anxiety at them, try to hold back remember, while your needs are important, they have a lot of students whose needs are equally as important as yours. 


All my love, 
Lxox

Saturday, August 26, 2017

Shopping For Uni Supplies

Hello my pretties! L here, and I want to tell you all something I love! Shopping for stationary - and bedding, and clothes, oh make up too....okay maybe I just love shopping! But you know what the best kind of shopping is? Shopping for a purpose, and my darlings I feel no greater purpose than to aid in the persuite of furthering ones self! Of course that includes your education, so lets dive right on in with my aboslute must have check list!

**Note** Online shopping is an amazing asset to those of us who find shopping in person difficult, but be aware of your expenditure. I managed to almost click go on a $300 Amazon list, I'm so glad I didn't!

Stationary:

Pens (always write academically in black ink) 
Pencils, 
Rubber, 
Ruler, 
Pencil Sharpner, 
Note books (Two for each subject and I'll explain why further down) 
Project book/Ring binder (One for each subject) 
Highlighters, 
Colouring Pencils, 
A4 Paper, 
Coloured Card, 
Stapler, 
Hole punch. 
These are the bare necessities, if you will.  
Now, if you're anything like me, you're a colourful and visual kinda gal! So here's my personal not optional,  optional extras! 
Pastel highlighers, 
Fine liners, 
Mid liners, 
Gel pens, 
More washi tape. 
Okay, so....here's the explaintaions. 
When you get to University, the first week is known as Freshers week. But what it also is, is an introduction to your courses, and you'll get your syllubus. Do not just take it and put it on a pile! Read through it, highlighting the important things; key dates, tests, asessments, trips, etc. Once you've highlighted it, put it in the corrosponding course folder and close it. Do the same to all of your course syllubus and folders. 
Two note books per subject
Now the reason I say this is, that when I try to write neat, I write slow and when I just write  it's a hot mess, but the information gets onto the paper. That's great, until it comes to revising and I can't read a thing I wrote. Each night when you get home copy up your notes into your ''neat'' note book. If you're using an electronic form of note taking, do the same thing but type up your notes into neat, consolidated art works! 

Coloured Card

Right so, for each chapter or module of your course, you're going to change the coloured card in the binder. So, you get your first topic of the semester, hole punch it, write the name of the topic on it and pop it into the folder. The next one will be a different colour and this will save you so much time when it comes to trying to find a chapter when revising for a test. 
Also, you could grab some of those sticky page tabs? You know the ones I mean? Every time your teacher says ''this is important'' or ''this will be on the test'' highlight it and stick a little page marker onto it. That way you'll know it's super important. 

As for home and bedroom, things very quickly mount up and I strongly suggest saving as much money as you can. Take the old mis-matched plates from home. Go to the charity shop and see what you can get! There's no shame in being savings conscious! 

My most economic friendly shops are Wilkinsons, Supermarkets, Matalans, and Primark! 

Have fun, shop well!

Wednesday, August 23, 2017

Welcome!


Welcome, welcome, welcome!
My name is Lexy, I'm the author of this fair blog. That handsome chap is Jaxx, I'd love heaven and Earth for him. So what is this blog, why is this blog etc! Lemme clear this up!
I created this blog to document my University/College experience as a wheelchair user with an Assistance dog. I searched and searched the Internet and I couldn't find anything, and certainly nothing pertaining to my course! So here we are, because I think you all deserve to know how things work, and get a feel for what to do!
How did you know you wanted to work with troubled youths?
The truth is I had no idea that was something I wanted to do untill about 7 hours ago!

Say whaaa?
 Having failed my Numercy exam to enter into a nursing degree, I started digging deep and doing some reflection. I decided that ultimately I can't buy my health back, or the short time that animals are on this Earth with us. That those are my priorities and values so whatever I did, those had to be worked around; not the other way around!
So, like, what are you studying?
I will start my four years "sandwhich" degree September 2017. I'm studying Criminal Justice and Criminology. I'm actually quite excited!
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So, there you have it! That's the story so far and I hope you follow along with me :)